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2005.05.19

『14歳の子を持つ親たちへ』

今日のエントリーは、内田樹先生と精神科医・名越康文さんとの対談を本にまとめた『14歳の子を持つ親たちへ』 新潮新書について。この本は、『幸福な食卓』 のエントリーでもちらっと触れたが、やはりきちんと書いておく。

名越康文さんは、内田先生がこの本のまえがきでもお書きになっているとおり、「はじめて会った人の本性を5秒で見切る」という炯眼の精神科医だそうだ。

オカダは内田先生のブログで初めてお名前を知り、出演されていた「グータン ~自分探しバラエティ~」というTV番組を2、3度見たことがある。名越さんがゲスト出演者を精神分析する様子は、とても興味深いものだった。

で、この『14歳の子を持つ親たちへ』というタイトルを内田先生が選んだのは、まえがきによると、名越さんが思春期の子どもたちを対象とするクリニックを開いていて、豊富な臨床事例を知っていることに加えて、内田先生もまた「子供が日本社会の最弱の環であり、社会はそこから綻びてくる」という暗鬱な予見を有しているからだそうだ。

そして、なぜ14歳の子なのかと言うと、内田先生御自身の経験から言って、14歳は自分の身体に違和感を持つ年頃だからだそうだ。

それはオカダにも経験があるからよくわかるが、一方の女の子も 伊藤 比呂美『伊藤ふきげん製作所』 新潮文庫 によると、同じらしい。

そして、お2人がこの本で勧奨しているのは、「子どもが何を考えているのかわからなくて当たり前」「どう対処していいかわからなくて当たり前」という仕方で、「肚(はら)を括る」ことだ。といっても「子どもなんて好きにさせておけばいい」という放任主義とは違うという。

ではどうすればいいか、「この本を読めばその手がかりが得られる」と内田先生は控えめに語っておられるが、非常に参考になることが書かれているのは間違いない。

そして、先生の他の本と同じように、様々な卓越した知見、煌めくようなアフォリズムの数々に触れることもできる。

例えば、ディベートは最悪の教育法で、コミュニケ-ションとは、何を言っているのかはっきりわからないことを受信する能力のこと(p53)、など。

14歳の子を持つ親たちはもちろん、そうでない方、当の14歳の子どもたちにも是非読んでもらいたい1冊だ。

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